No matter how old my boys get, I continue to read books and look for guidance. Who remembers What to Expect When Expecting? I read those books over and over for years! Today, with an 8 year old, 5 year old and 3 year old, I’m looking for a different type of advice. I need books like Lose That Mommy Guilt and If I Could Just Cook In My Car to remind me that I’m not alone, that I’m not crazy for wishing my guilt away or for asking for just one smooth weeknight dinner with 3 boys. I’m tired of beating myself up and tip toeing around three different personalities (The 5 Love Languages of Children…so helpful). Guys, I’m so tired of all the feels…but I don’t have to be. I want to be kind to myself. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and I’m sitting here thinking about the cards I need to buy for the boys to pass around, I’m also thinking; I need to sometimes take care of myself first.
When a spa day isn’t feasible, and although wine always is, I still turn to books. There’s nothing better than a great red and a fantastic read! I’m loving these three right now. These are 3 reminders that the world won’t end when I say, “Forget it.” and “Sure, we can have PB&J in the car for dinner today.” Have you read them?
Lose That Mommy Guilt: Tales and Tips from an Imperfect Mom Clinical Therapist, Cara Maksimow thought she was doing everything wrong. It made me think, “She’s a therapist and she isn’t perfect!” Where did we ever get the idea that everything would run smoothly if kids are involved? And because things just don’t, why do we continue to be so hard on ourselves? Whether you are a working mom, stay-at-home mom, a new mom of one, or a veteran mom of many, you will relate to Maksimow’s brutally honest stories and you will sit up straight and take notes from her professional tips.
If I Could Just Cook In My Car: A Busy Mom’s Guide to Healthy Family Meals With Less Time, Stress and Money I used to think newborns were tough. They are! But as kids grow, there’s a new type of “tough.” And as kids get older, moms get busier. Things start to fall apart for me if I am too busy. I’m working part-time from home now, continue to volunteer at their schools and schlep my boys from soccer practice to piano to swim. “When are going to eat?” is a big question but “WHAT” is even bigger. It’s really simple: ADD, AWARE, ADJUST and ENJOY. Lisa Sanderson offers fantastic tips (I’m dying for a Crock-Pot), smart planning and even healthy recipes at the end of her book.
The 5 Love Languages of Children I have three boys and I used to think my parenting style would work for all three. Um. No. You don’t parent each one the same and you certainly don’t speak to each one the same. This book is an eye-opener. How did I not know? I love that this book helped me figure out each boy’s love language and that their love language can help me make them understand what we all need for our family. It’s sweet book full of ideas to help you connect with each one of your children.
If you haven’t read these books, treat yourself this Valentine’s Day and let me know if you do!