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What Do You Think When You See This?

September 18, 2012

When I found this picture “liked” by a FB friend, I immediately thought, “Wow. I’m going to print this and tape it on to my fridge”. Taping it up for motivation. To remind myself that I should try to come first once in a while. I messaged Maria Kang to congratulate her and ask her if I could use her image here. I couldn’t wait for her reply (sorry Maria!) because I quickly found out that the picture was going viral and most likely she is weaving through hundreds of emails. You might even see her on a morning news show tomorrow. ha!

But there will be backlash. Already, people are saying “Enough!” What makes this picture offensive to some? Is it the caption? If people take the time to read her story, they will quickly find out that:

1) She doesn’t have a nanny
2) She is a working mom
3) She doesn’t have perfect genes
4) She has overcome depression and bulimia
5) She isn’t saying that every mother needs to look like this

And to that I say BRAVO! This was her journey, her personal journey and she succeeded. I say ENOUGH to us mothers judging each other, enough with the comparisons! What IF she does have a nanny? What IF she is a stay-at-home mom? DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD!!!!!! If Maria wanted a six-pack after 8 months of giving birth: good for her! If I want a six pack of Coronas tonight: good for me! I kid! I kid! Listen, whatever makes you a better mother.

Maybe the caption on the picture was a bit much but I have a feeling people would have still found something negative to say. All I’m saying is this: Aren’t those boys too cute??

What do you think?

Your friend,

Betty

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  • Julie DeNeen September 18, 2012 at 1:39 pm

    Well, ultimately, I am glad that my post got people talking. Unfortunately, Maria thinks that I am taking offense at her personal body or lifestyle, of course I am not! What I am taking issue with is the presumption in her caption, PLUS the way people (and society) pervert women and sell sex, skinny, and fit, as the be all and end all for beauty. This has been my soapbox for a long time, so Maria’s caption was just a launch to discuss the issue once again. Anyway, glad it got your wheels spinning!

    • Betty
      Betty September 18, 2012 at 4:16 pm

      Thanks Julie and thanks for the trackback. I hope you and Maria can agree to disagree. I too DISLIKE the constant selling and selling of skinny and sex, but I don’t get tired of hearing about healthy life-style choices. I wish Maria would have not added the caption but I don’t think she meant to put any other woman down. Good luck to her as this will not be the end!!
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  • Anterrabae September 18, 2012 at 3:27 pm

    First, heck yes, those kids are beyond adorable. Second, if you had to read her blog to in order to figure out that she doesn’t think that all women who do not look like her are lazy excuse-makers, then she clearly failed in her goal to motivate and inspire people. If her caption had been “Do what makes you feel good!” it would have been much more inspiring because it would be clear that exercise makes her feel good and it can make you feel good, too. That isnt’ the route she took.

    • Betty
      Betty September 18, 2012 at 4:20 pm

      Agreed Anterrabae: Could have used a better caption. But when I saw this image, I thought about me and my personal goals right away (I also have 3 boys and the youngest just 4 months). I didn’t find the image offensive. I went straight to her blog to see how she does it…to again, inspire me. She didn’t have to be half-dressed for me to have wanted to “click”. I don’t need the six-pack (heck I didn’t have one at 21, I’m not shooting for it now!!!) but I want to be healthy for my boys and that is what jumped out to me. Thanks for stopping by!!!!
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  • Ana Sneed September 19, 2012 at 1:25 pm

    I absolutely LOVE the photo and the message. I agree that as mothers we should all strive for OUR personal best and support each other. Her story and strength is very motivating.

  • David September 19, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    Sometime we need to be shocked out of our routine thinking. It’s good that many people are now thinking either way. I loved Betty’s comment β€œWow. I’m going to print this and tape it on to my fridge”.

    Because that is what common sense people think “What can I do better!” Not “Why does she want me to be like her, skinny? I’m not skinny..ect ect ……(tangent)”

    I see men who are bigger than me. I do NOT say “Well they are paid to be like that.” or “They take steroids.” What I DO say is “Hm, I can work on my chest better.”

    If Arnold Schwarzenegger put out a photo that said “What’s your excuse?” Right off the BAT I KNOW that no matter his genetics, he work out VERY hard to get HIS desired effect. He is telling people to FIND the time and dedicate yourself to a goal.

  • Betty
    Betty September 19, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    “Find the time and dedicate yourself to a goal”. That’s what I believe in David. I was finding myself down in the dumps some days, regretting my decision to be a SAHM. I love my kids but if I didn’t find something for me (this blog) and have a goal just for me…I don’t know where I would be. We have to find strength, time and dedication to always be our better selves.
    Thanks for the comment and for stopping by!
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    • David September 24, 2012 at 1:26 am

      Maria took me to see a Tony Robbins seminar and I was totally enthralled by is teachings on what it is to be successful. “Successful people do what unsuccessful people wont.” There are many facets to life and plenty of obstacles. People are born with the world at their fingertips and do nothing with it. Others, are raped as little girls, tossed in foster homes and through that pain push themselves to be better (Oprah). Having lived through a car bomb, re-learned how to walk and talk, I KNOW what it takes to get ahead. One part of is the people and opportunities around a person. They other, more important part is their willingness to move heaven and earth to accomplish their goals or desires. Some people never even get to the “Setting a goal” part. To each his or her own. Success should be congratulated and failures should be lifted up, learned from, attacked again till the outcome is “success” at any measurement.

      • Betty
        Betty September 24, 2012 at 8:53 am

        Hi David! Are you Maria’s husband? Thanks for stopping by again and for this bit. What an inspiration the two of you! “Success should be congratulated” I love that. That is how I feel. No jealousy here. I see when people are being positive and I like to share that. Before writing this piece on Maria, I went to her website and made sure that if I was going to share to my readers that it was something positive. I keep going back to read her posts. Thanks again!
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  • Nancy September 24, 2012 at 12:52 am

    Nice pic, I many times wished I would of taken pics of me when I had my six pack lol, unfurtunatly I would of had to photoshop my whole belly and smoth out all my horrible streach marks, sometimes I think this way, life is not fair, one thing that always happens when you have kids is you gain weight, for me loosing the weight has not been an issue, I eat rigt and exercise and is off, but what happens when your whole belly, legs and butt got stretched out and their is no repair?? I wonder if she was full of strech marks that are health of inch wide would of put her pic out there, ?? I dont know if I’m getting out of the point here, but it’s hard to get motivated knowing that even if I work out so hard and get a six pack, I will never have a pretty belly ever again. I’m glad photoshop exist.

    • David September 24, 2012 at 1:15 am

      How old are your kids?

  • Betty
    Betty September 24, 2012 at 8:55 am

    Nancy,
    She does have stretch marks and posted to show it! Here you go! Check out her FB page… https://www.facebook.com/MariaMKang
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  • David September 28, 2012 at 1:04 pm

    Yes, I am Maria’s husband. You did an awesome job of due diligence. Julie has now taken issue with my and my responses to her and somewhat twistiest the context and intent. I see a trend. I have no issues with women and lifting each other up. I take issues when people or a person take all the “could be’s” and post a blog in direct contrast to what they “think” Maria is instead of finding out the reality. I said “She was thick when I met her.” meaning THICKER than she is now. Julie when on a tangent about my audacity at calling me wife “thick”. As a person who loves human interaction and the study of emotions, I think the word “thick” is a trigger word for Julie. We all have them. Someone says something that hits close to home and their emotions hijack the topic and it become irrational. Julie saw the picture and the caption and from her life experience went in a certain direction. I have a strong feeling even if there was not caption to it, she would have taken offense and “made excuses.” When ever I look at an opportunity missed RARELY was there something I couldn’t have done better or more of to sway the outcome in my favor. Successful people do not makes excuses, nothing is impossible although it may be improbable! πŸ™‚ A person never knows unless they try.

    • Betty
      Betty October 7, 2012 at 7:06 pm

      Yay! Thanks David!! I KNEW she would attract this type of attention and I am so happy for her!!! Thank you for sharing.