How many times have you heard someone say to you, “How do you do it all? What’s your secret?” and you respond humbly, “Oh, no! Most of the time I’m a crazy woman!”
How many times have you heard someone at the checkout line or at a restaurant say, “Wow! Your kids behaved so well” ? And you shrug it off and say in front of your kids (!), “They’re a handful, really.” Or, “It’s a fluke! Only today!”
My favorite: “You baked these? And you have kids? Wow! You’re like Supermom or something“. Whether the person is fuming with envy and gritting her teeth as she utters the words or someone is genuinely praising you for the amazing feat you just pulled off, more often than not you respond with, “It was nothing, really”.
You know what I have been thinking lately? It’s time for you and I to simply embrace it. Drop the humbleness and embrace it. Proudly answer to the praises with a big smile and a gracious “thank you”. No, it isn’t easy but you did it! And for that you should be very proud.
Working moms or stay-at-home moms, when it comes to just being a mom, there is no gold medal, no promotion, no cash-bonus for your work. Jose comes home from work with great reviews from his boss and new career plans and even though I am super proud of him, I often wonder, what about me?
There are days that you managed to get all the children in the car without someone pooping in the process and killing five precious minutes. There are days that you managed to pack a healthy lunch for your kids, loaded the dishwasher and made the beds before dropping them off at the care giver’s place (bonus if you stopped for a cup of coffee and are at your desk right on time). These accomplishments make you feel like you deserve a pat in the back! You post it on Facebook because you can’t believe it yourself! You did it!!!
I love going to the supermarket with all three boys and I have Jordi strapped to my chest, Santi is sitting in the cart and Diego hanging off of it and people stop to stare, “How does this woman do it?” Simple. I push. Like this. And I’m fast and my kids help me and I feed them in the process, “Grab a croissant Diego! We’ll pay for it at the end! Take the bananas! Who wants cheese?!? ” It works out. I laugh at the end of the task that I sometimes set myself up for but when it’s done and we did it, we celebrate it!
When you pull off the everyday routine without a hitch and with a great attitude…what a feeling! It’s empowering! Yes, most days I’m a crazy lady, most days my kids don’t behave, most days I BUY the baked goods, but there are a lot of days that I deserve a little reward. I’ll take that compliment, thank-you-very-much.
These past two weeks taught me a lot about myself. One thing I learned is that from now on, when someone notices my hard work, my clean house, my yummy food, and well mannered children I will say, “THANK YOU!!” with a big smile on my face because today, damn right I was Supermom.
When you do you have super powers? Please share below!!