Kids, Life

Queen B

April 23, 2012

I went to the nail salon this weekend and while picking out from the rainbow of OPI choices, I noticed a lot of mother/daughter pairs and I thought, “There must be a little girl’s birthday party going on!” I sat in the waiting section and while pretending to read from my iPhone, I looked around and realized there was no party. It just happened to be that the weekend is very popular for little girls ages four and up to get their nails done with their mothers. I watched how patiently the moms helped pick out up to ten nail polishes for their little girls’ each and every tiny nail (poor nail techs)! And I watched how they could barely reach the foot bath on the pedicure chairs…but there they sat, giggling from the foot scrub. I smiled with them but felt a little emptiness in my heart.

When I tell people that I am having my third son in a few weeks some say, “How awesome! Boys are so easy.” My favorite has been, “Mothers of all boys are bad ass!” But I have definitely have had the, “Awwww…will you still try for the girl?” or a blunt, “Were you sad when you found out you were having another boy?” I don’t lie to people (even if they are strangers). But honestly, now that I know what is coming I tell people, “I’m-having-my-third-boy-I’m-super-excited-It-will-be-a-lot-of-fun-and-that’s-it-three-kids-are-enough-for-me.” I say it all in one breath so I don’t give them a chance to be sad for me. I think about my aunt who had three boys and when she became pregnant the fourth time with twin boys, I remember thinking, “It was just meant to be.” But I never felt bad for her. Things happen for a reason. So I don’t lie. I tell people that I was sad for a few hours after Jose and I went right before Christmas to a special 3D scan in Chicago. We were hoping to be able to surprise our families with the news of a baby girl. I was sad to think that I would never go prom shopping with a daughter, I would never be mother-of-the-bride, I would never help her with her children the way my mom has helped me… But I think about how I will raise gentlemen, how amazing three boys will be and how truly blessed we are to have such healthy, cute, good boys.

I can’t wait to meet my baby boy #3 (less than three weeks!) and I can’t wait to see how he will get along with Diego and Santi. The two have just started to really play together (four year difference in age is huge with boys) and it is hilarious to see them interact. They are gentle, they are silly and they are sports fanatics. It makes my heart melt to see Jose so happy with his boys and that he won’t have to have his heart broken by a little princess later in life. I love that I am their queen and that I will rule this kingdom! I will teach them to be gentle and to be kind. I will teach them proper etiquette, I will build their confidence and hopefully one day… far, far away, they will bring me amazing women. I look forward to meeting the girls they introduce to me and I’m sure I’ll be able to squeeze in a nail appointment or three.

Happy Monday!
Your Friend,

Betty

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8 Comments

  • Reply Maritza April 23, 2012 at 9:26 am

    This is how I feel about having two girls and no boy. I tell Eric that he will forever be MY “boy”. Please feel free to take my girls to a nail salon when they are older. I have yet to take Giuliana as I feel there is a time (age-wise) for everything. As for dress shopping…we will see where we are in that future…going to New York to dress shop doesn’t sound too bad. We are truly blessed and hope to continue to stay blessed. Xox

    • Betty
      Reply Betty April 24, 2012 at 8:19 pm

      And I know there is so much more to girls than nails and shopping as with boys and sports. It’s just the little things you know? xoxo

  • Reply Heather April 23, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Just wanted to let you know how much I enjoy checking this. I think you are a very honest writer and it is great to see how you truly feel regarding certain topics. Even though you never had a girl you are truly blessed!

    • Betty
      Reply Betty April 24, 2012 at 8:20 pm

      Thanks Heather! It’s better to “write from the heart” as they say! I feel like by blog is all over the place, covering all sorts of things…but it’s what I like you know? I’m so much happier doing all this. Thanks for the support! xoxo

  • Reply Liz April 26, 2012 at 10:10 am

    Betty,
    Like you I kinda think similar. We’re still iffy about having baby #3 but I’m almost certain that if we do we will have another boy. Its just a feeling I have and like you mentioned that I will miss “dress shopping, getting nails done together”. But boys are fun and although I was not much of a sports fan but I am becoming one more and more and it is something different but am glad that I can enjoy this with them. (Cool mom points :D) I have 2 nieces that I tell my sister that is even better because I can take them out to do all that girly stuff and have their parents deal with all the girl parenting stuff such as boys, etc. 🙂 Growing up in a household full of girls I never really experienced all the “boy stuff” so I’m really enjoying learning how different boys are then girls with everything from running around with Adrian to all his sports, learning from him about his super heroe cartoons, wrestling with him, playing tranformers, cars, and even hearing him talk about girls in his classroom. Its a different world to me but I find it very interesting see things through different eyes. So, while I dont know what the future will hold for us it is truly a blessing to be able to having such wonderful, healthy, happy, hansome boys in our lives that can always make us smile. XOXO Good luck with baby #3 🙂

    • Betty
      Reply Betty April 26, 2012 at 12:59 pm

      Hi Liz! I have 2 goddaughters so I know exactly what you mean!!!! Enjoy your boys and follow your heart. We knew that we wanted a third child no matter what. A girl would have been nice but we thought, how awesome it will be if it’s another boy? You just have to want a bigger family…or not. We are lucky to have cute boys and HEALTHY. You have time… 😉

  • Reply Nancy April 30, 2012 at 12:14 am

    Its true! When I planed my third child, all I was thinking is I want another baby, I really did not care about the sex I just wanted to have a bigger family, God blessed us with a beautiful boy. But I just to think that having all girls would not be a bad thing. I sometimes feel bad that Frankie does not have a brother, but I think he will be fine, daddy will be there to play ball with him. I just thank God for giving us healthy children full of life and dreams. 🙂

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