I’ve been pondering a lot lately whether or not some people are wired up to be more positive than others? Since inviting you to challenge yourself to be a more positive person a few weeks ago, I have been soul-searching myself about the experiences in my life that have given me that consciousness of staying positive and happy.
A long time ago, I lived in a not-so-positive home. I lived with a father who demanded excellence but never praised our efforts or achievements. From my personal perspective, nothing was ever good enough for him and although he worked hard and was/is deep down a great man, he couldn’t see the greatness in others.
My mother, the kindest person, truly an angel on this earth, didn’t seem happy for a while either, and has actually recovered from years of severe depression. A battle we have all fought and won with her.
My mother taught me at an early age to not let other people’s awful attitude, including my poor dad’s, define me. A believer of God but not a every-Sunday-church-going woman, she taught me that I could pray anywhere, I could always turn the other cheek but I was never to let someone else shape my attitude. She taught me to always think about why a person was so rude and negative. To put myself in their shoes, to be tolerant because we never know what someone’s walk in life has been like.
A long time ago, I was also in a relationship that brought out the worst in me. I lived five-years of my life in our bubble. I realize now that it was such an effort, I couldn’t look out of what I was experiencing. I was missing other people’s lives, other moments. It also drew emotions ranging from rage to moments of complete bliss, sometimes both in an instant. I wanted to be so happy with this person and I wanted to change him. I learned, eventually, that I can only change myself to achieve happiness.
Jose and I didn’t grow up with much. We have worked hard, made tough sacrifices, and have had sprinkles of good luck thrown our way. We, of course, have made mistakes too and now look back at things we could have done better and take that knowledge for the experiences that await us.
This Positive Series will be about my journey to this point of my life. A positive, driven, happy and content life. I’m not done. I know there will be dark days but I know there will be brighter ones too.
Before I introduce Part 2 of this series, take this long Thanksgiving break to think about your happiness. Remember that there are short-term gratifying moments and a long-term lifestyle for happiness. Think about the little things that make you happy. I just posted my latest this past Monday! It is important to notice the small things in life too (more on that later). Then think about where you would like to be in 5,10, or 15 years from now. Feel free to share these goals (short-term or long-term) on the comments below. Or if you want to keep it private, message me. I’d love to help you out with specific examples.
The season of all seasons to celebrate and be happy is upon us. Even though this piece was carefully thought through and not easy to write, I’m glad it is now out in the universe at this time. I am so thankful this Thanksgiving for my experiences and the ability to share them with you.
I know where I want to go. I hope you do too.
Have a great Thanksgiving everyone!