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Positive Series #7-Following the Advice We Give to Children

February 14, 2013

The other day I noticed that the things I say to my boys, the words of encouragement, could really be repeated to some adults I know…including myself. The day-to-day advice we give to young children is repeated by every parent I know. We motivate children at a young age by reiterating the simplest of words, yet we forget to believe those words are meant for us too. Pay attention to yourself one day and notice the positive things we say to the ones we love the most and try really hard to apply them to your every day living as well.

1) It’s going to be okay. It always is, isn’t it? No need to cry about forgotten homework, tricky snow boots, or little “accidents”. We teach our children that things will work out, that together we will make things better. This is my mantra on a regular basis! Huge statement for practicing positive thinking.

2) You can do it. I honestly didn’t know if I should rank this list. I must say, “You can do it” about ten times a day! While my kids are putting together puzzles, sounding out new words while reading, or tying their shoes- these words are used a lot around here. I have to admit that I don’t think I “can do it” on most days. But when I do, I give myself a huge pat on the back.

3) Don’t get frustrated. Stay calm. Lots of tears from children (at least mine) when they are feeling defeated. As adults, we feel the same A LOT of the time. What do we do for our children? We wipe away their tears, we use our most comforting voices and say, “relax” and we guide them with their task. I always look for my BFFs and hubby during these times. We all need to vent and we all need guidance once in a while.

4) Smile. For kids and adults: Smiling makes a huge difference. Always.

5) Do your best. We ask this of our children all the time. But can we honestly say we do our best at all our tasks? We ask children to strive to be the best by focusing and working hard. Are we setting a good example? Not me, not always. But let’s try.

6) Stand up straight. Demonstrate confidence and then look forward. You are brave.

7) I believe in you. You know your child better than anyone and there are no other words that you can say that will make a huge positive impact. Who believes in YOU? Your kids do! Come through for them when you make promises and plans.

8) Eat your veggies. We tell our kiddies to eat well because they will stay healthy and feel great. Are we doing our best with our food intake? There is always room for improvement. I’m always trying. I’m always trying to learn more.

9) Believe in yourself. The opposite of number seven. Helping your children build self-esteem starts at home…today and every day. Build them up with positive words and encouragement, yet letting go of the things they can manage on their own (independence). For you: believe that you are capable, smart, and worthy; everyone can see it!! Can you?

10)Dream big. I just came across this quote, “When you’re finished changing, you’re finished.”-Benjamin Franklin. Why should we stop having personal goals? Keep dreaming big. Just like you tell your kiddies.

11)Work hard. Nothing comes easy. Everything is a battle, a struggle. But it doesn’t have to be painful! If your child demonstrates interest in soccer, by golly they must run around for a LONG time! The same for us adults. One has to work hard but make sure you are ENJOYING what you are striving for. In the end: totally worth it.

12)I love you. You love your children, your nieces and nephews, and your godchildren, right? Remember that you are only good to all those little people when you are good to your self. Love your self first!

Did I miss any other words of encouragement worth following as adults? Add in the comments below. I love your input!

Did you catch some of the other positive series posts? Here’s a good one! And another!!

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  • Reply Nina February 14, 2013 at 11:26 pm

    I find myself saying many of these statements, and it’s so true that one of the best ways to implement what we say is by modeling it ourselves. It’s so easy to forget to do what we say and that that’s usually more effective than reminding them verbally.
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    • Betty
      Reply Betty February 15, 2013 at 10:40 am

      This is why I love Nina and her blog! Thank you for pointing this out Nina, “modeling”. xoxo
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  • Reply Vanessa February 14, 2013 at 11:42 pm

    How about Be Yourself-don’t worry about what others may think of you? Sometimes we get caught up in what others might think…who cares?if it makes YOU happy, then go for it!!!

    • Betty
      Reply Betty February 15, 2013 at 10:44 am

      Very good Vane! I missed that one and it’s an important one!!! Thank you! (P.s. I just felt like a teacher with that “Very good Vane” ja ja ja! xoxo
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  • Reply Nancy February 16, 2013 at 10:44 am

    One that I used a lot is, be positive, it kind tha goes together with believe inyourself, but you know many times we are five minutes late for swimming and there is a negative comment about what’s gonna happen, like teacher is gonna be mad or something like that and I’m always saying please just think posive!

    • Betty
      Reply Betty February 19, 2013 at 10:24 am

      Nancy! I can’t believe I missed that!!!jajaja! I use it so much that I forgot to add it.
      Ahem…I was just testing you dear readers! 🙂
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