I had a completely different intro for this week’s series post. But as I have had a pretty rough week (or two), I just wanted to be real honest. I seem to be tested every now and then (as I am sure a lot of you are too). For me, maintaining a positive environment for my boys is the ultimate goal. You already know why. As I yelled and slammed cabinets last night and Diego cried for about 2 hours straight (Was he exhausted? hungry? I tried to figure it out, but failed), I couldn’t forgive myself for acting like I had lost control. I crawled into bed at 9pm last night and as I reflected, I remembered that this jotting down business helps me, I hope to help you and I hope the cycle continues. No parent is perfect but I vow to do better. Enjoy.
As I continue my Positive Series here on my blog and I continue to ask you to find the positives and seek the benefits, it occurred to me that the little things in our lives can sometimes become huge factors in our personal attitudes. There are daily challenges that we sometimes “give up” on and lose focus on matters that were once very important to us. There is the famous quote all of us mothers use when speaking of our children, “Pick your battles”. Honestly, there are some days that I choose to fight them all. Some battle in our daily lives are well worth it, full of long-lasting benefits- if we are determined to conquer. For me, seeing myself or my kids progress in these small things below, really shape my positive outlook.
Are you fighting the same battles?
The Bilingual Issue: This topic is huge for us and it’s paying off. At Diego’s first kindergarten conference a few weeks ago, both his teachers said they noticed how much Diego loves his culture and heritage. We are so happy that the Spanish curriculum starts in the first grade! I see Santi mastering English because he hears everyone speaking English around him. I stop to think though, if Jose and I want him to communicate with his grandparents, we have to be conscious and re-focus on speaking to him and to Jordi in Spanish as much as possible. It is hard work but a benefit we will not regret.
Staying Organized: Major props to working parents who are in charge of the school notifications and calendar. It is a full-time job in itself! Back in September, I had a 14 day stretch of no TV for me. I didn’t plan it! I had the house, the kids, Diego’s activities and school schedule, my blog and everything else. Staying organized is a huge priority and necessity for me. If the house is a mess, I can’t think straight and I become VERY irritable. My kids have to stay organized as well. Simply making minor adjustments in our home has had beneficial results. We are all happier too when we can find toys, books and clothes in an instant!
Be Your Best Self: I don’t care if I have to correct bad behavior all day long. I try my best to model the type of attitude I expect from the boys. It does backfire sometimes! For example, I am a total witch at meal times (it’s getting better). I know my boys are not perfect because I am not perfect…but I won’t settle. Knowing how to behave in different scenarios will help them out in the future. Starting with pleasantries at home are a huge advantage.
Exercise and Healthy Eating: Everyone will have off days. But it’s important for me to instill exercise and healthy eating in my children’s lives right now. There are Saturdays that we wish we didn’t have to go to another soccer game. There are days I don’t want to cook or personally work out. I take great pride after cooking and watching everyone enjoy my meal! Also, there is a quote out there these days, “Wow, I really regret that workout. Said no one ever.” For me, exercise helps me stay clear headed and positive. I’m less tired in the morning and feel fantastic after 30 minutes on the elliptical.
Long Term Goals: I’m always thinking, “what will I write/read/do/etc. next?” It’s important to have goals in mind for you and your family that will benefit everyone. For example, planning short trips and vacations should keep you focused to save a little more, to plan and to have something exciting to look forward to! It doesn’t even have to be so big. My favorite: date nights! I plan my outfits, make reservations and look forward to that amazing meal with my better half.
I feel better after re-reading this. If you think someone can benefit from this post, please share it! My mission continues to help people put things into perspective, be grateful and live surrounded by positivity.