For YOU, Positive Series

Positive Series #2-Discovering and then Leaving Your Comfort Zone

November 28, 2012

I shared a little bit of pain with you last week as I introduced the first part of The Positive Series. Whew! Now that it is out…let’s focus on the happy stuff, shall we?

A long time ago, when I was a senior in high school, I had the most amazing English teacher, Ms. Cosimano. I wish I could find her (I’ve stalked the internet looking for her) just to tell her that I followed her advice: “Leave and explore what’s out there”.

Fast forward 7-8 years later, when I reunited with my high school boyfriend (now hubby), he remembers Ms. Cosimano’s words too! Jose and I were apart for about 5-6 years and when we saw each other again and chatted all night long about our high school days, we realized that the same exact words of a dear teacher made a huge impact on both of us. How random. She didn’t say those words more than once, did she?

They say opposites attract, but I think people with the same goals, same dreams and same hopes attract as well. It is no coincidence that Jose and I were meant to leave our comfort zones together.

To be fair, Jose left right after college. Nothing was stopping this man from creating his own adventures. He took off to the city of all cities, NYC,  started his career and his life with a drive to the East Coast along with his brother Gus who was helping with the move.  He only knew a handful of people in New York City and left his whole family in Chicago. Although his life was happy there, he wanted more. He took a leap.

I helped Jose take another leap when he asked me if I was willing to move to Tokyo with him. If I could leave Chicago for NYC after our wedding, why wouldn’t I leave to go to Tokyo? I had done a bit of traveling myself and knew that I wanted to live in another country for some time.  If this choice was going to bring a positive change for our careers and we were going to discover a new place and meet new people, I thought, “Why, not?” I quickly agreed.  That time we jumped together.

In 2008, the financial recession hit and after almost three years in Tokyo. Jose’s company was bought out by a Japanese firm. They wanted to keep their employees and not fire the newly acquired head count so Jose was offered a job in Singapore. “Should we go?” wasn’t even a question. There was really no alternative at that moment. But because we had done a huge move before, we knew we could do it all over again. This time we had Diego. This time we needed to this. But no jumping. Singapore was more like: we got this, we know this, we’ve been here before.

Ms. Cosimano encouraged us to leave, to explore, to find other worlds.  What discovery doesn’t come through learning? For Jose and I, the words of a beloved teacher in an English class (books! not a coincidence!!) opened the world to endless possibilities. There isn’t a thing I am afraid to do (except roller coasters, I don’t do roller coasters).

How comfortable is your comfort zone? Are you willing to step out for new discoveries? Discoveries that will most likely make you happier? More positive? Learn: what is your passion? Learn: what would make you happy? Learn to jump! It can be as small as enjoying a meal out on your own, to applying to grad school, to starting a business plan. And if you have done all that, find something else! I’m not saying you have to move to Asia. Happiness doesn’t have to be so drastic. Learning doesn’t have to be so drastic either.

Today I’m just passing along a little push of encouragement and words from a woman I thank a lot through positive energy. I wish I could share our story with Ms. Cosimano, but I think she would like me sharing this with you even more. Happy Wednesday!

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  • Reply Nancy November 28, 2012 at 12:52 am

    That’s so cool how God puts people in the right places at the right time… I had a teacher I high school that I will always remember and think of him like my mentor. He was one of the most positive persons in the world, he saw everything in a diferent light. He would sometimes play a music cd of classical music to the classroom in psychology class just for us to open our mind to different sounds of music, some kids would laugh and some would really enjoy the music, almost twice a week he would record a tape for me of new music or borrow me a book that he would think was important for me or would help me in my everyday life. Also as my English teacher he always encouraged me to explore new worlds and so here I’m I left my tiny little town to explore new land, I’m happy I left because I learned and experienced things that I would have never experienced in my town.

    • Betty
      Reply Betty November 29, 2012 at 1:50 pm

      So glad you have experienced such big changes Nancy. You are also super talented and I know you have grown so much in your business too. Keep it up!! xoxo
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  • Reply Yvette S November 28, 2012 at 9:43 am

    Love reading about your love and relationship with Jose. Brings me happiness!

  • Reply Vanessa November 28, 2012 at 2:27 pm

    Great post!!! We can be our own obstacle or our own driver…I choose driver. Therefore, going to find ways to step out of my comfort zone! Thanks Betty!!

  • Reply Leticia November 28, 2012 at 11:37 pm

    I can relate to the whole roller coaster thing! 😉

    As far as the comfort zone?! I left everyone and moved to Colorado when I was 21! I thought I knew it all and was not afraid, I loved it! Within 6 months I knew as far North as Fort Collins to far South Pueblo, Co. I had been horse back riding in Estes Park and walked across the Royal Gorge! (just typing this brings me to tears!)

    Thank you Betty! You know I’ve been struggling with my oldest son, reading your blog tonight feels like that “honk” when the light turns green at an intersection! I know what I have to do but I’ve been staying “safe” within my comfort zone :-\

    Thank you SO much again for taking time to express yourself, expose yourself and of course to challange us to do better 😉


    • Betty
      Reply Betty November 29, 2012 at 1:52 pm

      I know your story and was very impressed! Good for you!!! AND because you know the benefits of leaving your comfort zone, do it for your son. Whatever it is you need to do. You’ve been there before and can do it again. Best of everything to you!
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