I shared a little bit of pain with you last week as I introduced the first part of The Positive Series. Whew! Now that it is out…let’s focus on the happy stuff, shall we?
A long time ago, when I was a senior in high school, I had the most amazing English teacher, Ms. Cosimano. I wish I could find her (I’ve stalked the internet looking for her) just to tell her that I followed her advice: “Leave and explore what’s out there”.
Fast forward 7-8 years later, when I reunited with my high school boyfriend (now hubby), he remembers Ms. Cosimano’s words too! Jose and I were apart for about 5-6 years and when we saw each other again and chatted all night long about our high school days, we realized that the same exact words of a dear teacher made a huge impact on both of us. How random. She didn’t say those words more than once, did she?
They say opposites attract, but I think people with the same goals, same dreams and same hopes attract as well. It is no coincidence that Jose and I were meant to leave our comfort zones together.
To be fair, Jose left right after college. Nothing was stopping this man from creating his own adventures. He took off to the city of all cities, NYC, started his career and his life with a drive to the East Coast along with his brother Gus who was helping with the move. He only knew a handful of people in New York City and left his whole family in Chicago. Although his life was happy there, he wanted more. He took a leap.
I helped Jose take another leap when he asked me if I was willing to move to Tokyo with him. If I could leave Chicago for NYC after our wedding, why wouldn’t I leave to go to Tokyo? I had done a bit of traveling myself and knew that I wanted to live in another country for some time. If this choice was going to bring a positive change for our careers and we were going to discover a new place and meet new people, I thought, “Why, not?” I quickly agreed. That time we jumped together.
In 2008, the financial recession hit and after almost three years in Tokyo. Jose’s company was bought out by a Japanese firm. They wanted to keep their employees and not fire the newly acquired head count so Jose was offered a job in Singapore. “Should we go?” wasn’t even a question. There was really no alternative at that moment. But because we had done a huge move before, we knew we could do it all over again. This time we had Diego. This time we needed to this. But no jumping. Singapore was more like: we got this, we know this, we’ve been here before.
Ms. Cosimano encouraged us to leave, to explore, to find other worlds. What discovery doesn’t come through learning? For Jose and I, the words of a beloved teacher in an English class (books! not a coincidence!!) opened the world to endless possibilities. There isn’t a thing I am afraid to do (except roller coasters, I don’t do roller coasters).
How comfortable is your comfort zone? Are you willing to step out for new discoveries? Discoveries that will most likely make you happier? More positive? Learn: what is your passion? Learn: what would make you happy? Learn to jump! It can be as small as enjoying a meal out on your own, to applying to grad school, to starting a business plan. And if you have done all that, find something else! I’m not saying you have to move to Asia. Happiness doesn’t have to be so drastic. Learning doesn’t have to be so drastic either.
Today I’m just passing along a little push of encouragement and words from a woman I thank a lot through positive energy. I wish I could share our story with Ms. Cosimano, but I think she would like me sharing this with you even more. Happy Wednesday!
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