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Mother of Three…A Month Later

June 8, 2012

It’s been a month everyone! We have had a glimpse of what our future holds! Jose and I are totally outnumbered and we look at each other from time to time (not much time to look at each other really) with bewildered looks as if saying, “What have we gotten ourselves into?” Those parents you see with more than three children? I give them so much credit. I can’t even imagine having more than three children at this point. Jordi turns one month in a couple of days and here is my list of what I have learned so far about being a mother of three boys: 

1. Sleep is NEVER enough. Or I am just a big complainer and whiner. I must have picked this up from a few little people I know. I hear it’s contagious. Here’s the thing, Jordi has given me five hour stretches of sleep at night since the first week!!!!!! I know, I know!!!!! Why would I complain? You get greedy. That’s it. I. Want. More. Sleep!

2. I am a jealous person. Now that you know I’m greedy, you will now learn that I am also a very jealous person. It’s new to me too. This past month as I nurse at three in the morning and use my phone to Facebook (and Twitter and Pinterest…) in order to keep my eyes open, I catch up on everything and I learn that I am hating on the people who are posting about their nutritious meals (because they are oh so healthy). I am jealous of those taking coffee brakes. I am jealous of those partying and drinking or lounging and drinking. And I am jealous of the people checking in at the gym. Why you ask? Because I am scarfing down whole chocolate chip muffins to make up for the lack of caffeine and alcohol (I’m nursing and not pumping). And I had a c-section. I can’t even jump over safety gates around here without being a huge ordeal. Sigh.

3. It’s just f’ing hard. (That’s all Jose had to say when I asked him what he thought of month one).

4. Some things have to wait. The birth announcements are not done, there is a stack of mail to go through, would really love some highlights, running low on toilet paper…

5. Showers are not that important. Everyone else in this house has to shower or have a bath. Me? Not so important. Shower or read? Shower or eat? Shower or write?  I mentioned dirty hair before. Apparently things haven’t changed much!

6. Mad Men is a luxury. We have only watched one show a night lately and we chose Mad Men because we  had the whole current season recorded. We realized that what we were looking forward to every night, despite the fantastic writing, was making us feel numb and depressed every night. We need to lighten it up around here.

7. I have to run things like a classroom. Thank goodness for my experience in managing classrooms full of middle school kids and preschoolers. I learned I have to have a plan for the boys. The schedule is starting to define itself. If things are planned, there is no time to argue with mommy about screen time. I made it today without having to bring out an iPad, iPhone, LeapPad, or computer. BUT I did use television so I could prepare dinner. Activities lined up for hours without leaving the house was a life saver.

8. Must learn to remember there are three now. I keep forgetting one child. Ha! Funny now but I have had some scary moments already where I have lost track of one of the boys. I have to train my brain to check for three and not two.

9. I have the most generous, thoughtful and caring friends and family. The cards! The gifts! The muffins! The chocolates! The prepared meals! The extra pair of hands. I’m a lucky girl.

10. Savor the moments. I have learned that it can only get easier from here on. Even if it doesn’t, keeping a positive outlook for the future helps you get through day by day. As much as I want to speed up the time so I can sleep for eight hours, guzzle up coffee and go out for a fancy beverage, I know that when I get there, I will be longing for these moments.

What did you learn when you had a life changing moment? Would love to hear!

Have a great weekend everyone!

Your friend,

Betty

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9 Comments

  • Reply Laila June 9, 2012 at 10:47 am

    Wow! You hit the nail on the head with this one! I, too, am extremely jealous when people check in at gyms and parties… And I totally understand about the showering!!! I am starting to love Joey’s bath time because I can sit and check fb/email while I monitor him playing. ( that’s what I am doing now!)

    • Betty
      Reply Betty June 12, 2012 at 8:17 pm

      You gotta take what you can Laila! 😉

  • Reply Raquelito78 June 9, 2012 at 11:40 pm

    Youre able to share with honesty makes me feel less guilty for the thoughts that cross my mind. When I had Emma it was wonderful to meet her minus the pain from my c-sec. However, 2 months was a LONG time before she slept at night AND through the night! I LOVE to sleep in. And when I was no longer able to sleep in was when I realized I was lazy. Nursing, pumping and staying up all night with a child who slept during the day was another eye opener. It’s not easy anymore to grab a drink or go shopping when I want. It’s ok one day when my child is grown I will be able to. Example, today…2 party invites + sick toddler= stay at home weekend. I guess it was time for me to grow up. Lol

    • Betty
      Reply Betty June 12, 2012 at 8:21 pm

      I was thinking today Raquel that the first child is def. the hardest (at least for me) because it’s a SHOCKER! You just know what to expect the second or third time around and it softens the “blow” a little bit easier. 😉 Thanks for continuing to read. I love to share as honestly as I can without all of you thinking I’m a complete nut!!! lol xoxo

  • Reply Jenny June 10, 2012 at 4:16 am

    Everything you say is true. I had that issue with just 2 kids. You are an awesome person. Keep up the good work. Xoxo

  • Reply Liz A June 10, 2012 at 11:36 pm

    I had to laugh a little, because what you pointed out is so so true. My husband and I talk about perhaps having more kids, but two is enough for us now. My oldest has more energy than my husband and I put together. My youngest is more calm but he’s picking up from his older sister…I’ve dedicated most of my time to attending to my family and their needs that I’ve neglected myself. This year I’ve decided to take care of ‘me’ more. It took almost 5 years since the birth of my first to actually do something about it. I’ve started running again this year, it was hard because my body took longer to heal (over 2 hours of pushing for each and forceps for one…ouch) and having 2 kids back to back. I’m currently training for a marathon (loving this time alone) and even though I think I’ve been good at eating healthy, I’m taking the jump to improve it even more, with some treats here and there. It’s hard…balancing everything, but I’ve picked up something from my mother-in-law and that is to live in the moment. I try not to plan ahead too much that it controls our lives. Like you I’ve learned to savor the moment because by the time we know it, our kids will leave us to live their own lives. You’re not alone Betty. I’ve had the same thoughts too 🙂

    • Betty
      Reply Betty June 12, 2012 at 8:24 pm

      I think a five year anniversary of mamihood is a big eye opener for many of us! This is why I started my blog! Right as Diego was turning five I realized I needed something for me. I applaud you for discovering what works for you and I wish you all the best! Thanks for sharing Liz. xoxo

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