Hubby and I were raised no different than the way we are bringing up our boys. We want them to be grateful and appreciative just like we were for the tiniest things our parents did for us. Looking back, I’m even grateful for the things I didn’t have. I have a lot of dreams for my sons; I want them to be good, happy men. It should be simple, right?
How do we accomplish this? Well, gosh. I think I nag a little. jaja! Most days, I find myself repeating the same thing over and over to my boys. When I take a step back to really think about the conversations or disagreements we had in the day and look at the BIG picture, I know they are learning every single day. Even when I hate myself for it, I have found that a little nagging goes a long way. I hope!
None of us are perfect. I’ll have to never get tired of showing them the way while learning a lot about myself too. Some days I’m a little more patient. Some days I do a lot of extra yelling. I’m conscious of it all and learning how each boy deals with my mothering (more on that later!). So I have a long list on why I’m always over my boys, their behavior, our expectations and everything else that goes along with being mami loca. Let me know what you think…
1. I want them to be each other’s best friends. When they fight, it drives me nuts, but I understand it’s part of being a sibling. I let them have their moment and I always talk to them about what they each could have done to have avoided the confrontation. It’s awesome to see them laugh and love each other. I want them to feel that brotherly love all of their lives.
2. I want them to know it’s okay to be tough and empathetic. The boys should be able to stand up for themselves but also for others. I want them to never be afraid to speak up, yet be smart enough to know when to keep quiet (!!). Brave guys with big hearts are needed in this world.
3. I want them to have faith and be positive. I want my boys to try to always look on the bright side…so negativity is usually not welcomed here at home. I don’t always feel my best when I gossip, blame others or am full of negativity. Everyone’s feelings are respected but we are conscious of how negative behavior makes others feel too. Of course they are allowed to feel what they want to feel! Nevertheless, we sneak a little positive advice on really bad days.
4. I want them to believe in more than themselves. Although it isn’t always easy to get to church, to remember to say grace, to be grateful to all who love us and help us, it’s important for me that the boys know that we are not alone in this world. Whatever religion they decide to practice when they are older, I want them to understand that the world will never revolve solely on them. I never get tired of reminding how everything from the leaves on the trees to the poor squirrel we ran over (yes, the other day) are important.
5. I want them to grow up to be gentlemen. This is the toughest. Most of my days (and I know a lot of mothers who do the same), spend most of their energy trying to raise children with good manners. Please and thank you, holding doors open for people, using indoor voices, using tissues, the seat in the bathroom…the list goes on and on but darn it, so important! The reminders they need must drive them crazy (“Mom is always nagging!”) but I don’t care. jajaja! They’ll thank me later.
6. I want them to know it’s okay to make mistakes. I’m far from perfect and I’m okay with that. I want my boys to recognize when they make a mistake, they should either apologize or get right back up and try again.
7. I want them to dress the part. I’m lucky that school (and special occasions!) calls for pants other than jeans/athletic wear and they have to wear a shirt with a collar. I don’t mind if they come home muddy from top to bottom and they are free to wear whatever they want after school and on the weekends. Just like adults, children feel great when they know they look good and when they have had the choice in selecting their clothing items and accessories, they feel important. I also think it starts teaching them early on that our appearance helps them make a good first impression.
Do you ever fell like you are a nagging mami? I really want you to say yes because I don’t want to be alone on this one! Joking aside, let’s remember that we are probably more encouraging, caring and loving on a daily basis than we are “awful.” I also have my mom to help me see that although she was always on us for the same things as on this list, I thank her and still love her very, very much. Have a great weekend!
A big thank you to FabKids for Jordi’s outfit!
image: CR Photography
This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Liliana . The opinions and text are all mine.