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12 Promises to My Sister

October 24, 2013


Hi! Have you met my little sister? Her name is Lily and this is her beloved little pup, Coco! Lily and I are 12 years apart and I have to confess, if I can do one relationship over in my life, it would be this one.

Your friend Betty is still a work-in-progress. No one is perfect! A lot of us are striving to better ourselves and relationships are a HUGE part of our lives. I don’t know if it was the big age difference between my sister and I, but to be absolutely honest, I think I messed up the whole thing. I was going off to college when my sister was only 5 years old! We have the same parents, they just waited a long time to have the third baby, but I can’t blame my mistakes on them. I hope I can still make it right.

Here are 12 ways I vouch to be a better sister:


1. I will never “parent” my sister again. I did this A LOT. I can help guide her, but she doesn’t need another mother or teacher. She needs a sister.

2. I will tell everyone how awesome my little sister has been and will be.


3. I will continue to learn about all things hip, trendy and cool…through her. All big sisters need to do this!

4. I will always be here to listen (even if I thought she was mad at me).


5. I will lead by example but leave room for her input and opinions.

6. I will always stay in touch with her even if I have to Tweet her to get her attention!


7. I will watch hockey, listen to country music and stay up way past my bedtime for her.

8. I would do anything for whom she loves (especially Coco! ).


9. I know that friends come and go, but sisters are forever.

10.I will always appreciate her.


11.I will be here when it gets really tough for her.

12.I will be here when it gets really amazing for her.


Big sisters, what else would you add to the list? I learn from you too, dear readers, thank you!

P.s. How stunning are these pictures! Thank you Lily and Coco! You two are gorgeous and adorable! And a great big thank you to Nancy, a Chicago photographer, and fantastic friend!

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  • Reply Jyoti October 24, 2013 at 9:22 am

    OMG, she is pretty adorable and so is Coco! You reminded me of my little sister, I’ll be her friend first & not preach her!

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 7:58 pm

      Jyoti, I had a feeling you would love Coco too! πŸ˜‰ Great, glad I could help! xoxo
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  • Reply Vanessa October 24, 2013 at 10:24 am

    Like you said although we have the same parents our views and values may differ. I respect my sister’s views and values even if I may not agree with them without judgement.

  • Reply Stephanie @ Spanglish Spoon October 24, 2013 at 12:30 pm

    I love #1. “she doesn’t need another mother….she needs a sister.” You are so right. I try to be that way with my little sister. We are 18 years apart (different fathers). My biggest commitment to her is that she can always come to me with ANYTHING and I would never treat her like a daughter, but a best friend without judgment. I hope she knows that.

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:01 pm

      Stephanie, I’m so glad you could relate. Thank you so much. Feels fantastic to know my sister and I are not alone. xoxo
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  • Reply Yvette @ Muy Bueno October 24, 2013 at 2:02 pm

    Awe this is so sweet! I’m happy I made the time to read it. Love it! She is very lucky to have you as a big sister.

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:02 pm

      Thank you, Yvette. So glad you were able to stop by! I see all the work you do with your family and I LOVE it. Gracias! xoxo
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  • Reply Cheers! Cristalia October 24, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    I am the youngest but I do have a niece that is 11 years younger than me. She grew up with my parents so she is like a little sister to me. Your first point reminded me a lot about myself because I used to “parent” her maybe too much and maybe all she needed was a cool aunt or sister. Thanks for sharing. <3
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    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:04 pm

      Thank you, Cristalia! See, this resonates to aunties too! I see how you can relate, you “shared” parents. Glad you are always conscious of making an impact in her life. xoxo
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  • Reply Nina October 24, 2013 at 7:11 pm

    I’m the youngest although I have siblings closer in age to me (even if the eldest is 14 years older than me). I always appreciated my sisters especially when I was entering something new, like my first day in school or trying out for the dance team. Til now, we are all very close. Of course we fought and all that normal stuff but I truly appreciate my relationship with my sisters.
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    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:06 pm

      Nina, I’m so glad you have had a great relationship with your siblings. I feel it is the one of those relationships that have to be worked on and not taken for granted. Thank you for the comment! xoxo
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  • Reply Nancy October 24, 2013 at 7:27 pm

    Oh Betty, I’m in tears… What a great way to express how you feel about your sister, I have 4 sisters all together three older ones and one 9 years younger, and same like you The relationship between us were a bit broken specially with my baby sister. it hurts me that im so far from all of them, now that we are all adults we talk about what went wrong and stuff, we have a lit more things in common like babies jobs and husband relationships etc. but I still wish we cared about each other a lot more when we were little, because even thoght I had a big family I always felt alone and I could imaging how my baby sister felt. Now as a parent I make sure my girls play together and engage in activities that they could spend time with each other and talk about things that they have in common. My promise is to call my sisters more often. Thank you so much for loving my work. Your sister is adorable !

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:18 pm

      Nancy, I’m so glad you are in a better place and I’m very happy you mentioned that you make sure your daughters interact well with each other. Your photography inspired me but also the fact that my boys are very close. I wish I could have offered that to my sister. My brother and I have been up and down all our lives but I think we figured it out a few years ago. Thank you so much for everything! Especially for your encouragement! xoxo
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  • Reply Caro October 24, 2013 at 9:08 pm

    I am 7, 9 and 10 years younger than my sisters, but I love then to death and am very fortunate to live 10-15 minutes away from each of them. Though our friendships didn’t start until I was an adult and could have more things in common I’m glad we have the rest of our adult lives together to share with each other. My oldest and youngest daughters are 13 years apart! Waow!!! Can’t wait to see how that plays out. πŸ™‚

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:21 pm

      Thank you for sharing, Caro! I know it will be fantastic for your daughters because you will make sure it is. NO offense to my own mother but I think our generation is more conscious and more involved (too much?? jajaja) with our kid’s lives. Not always bad though, right? xoxo
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  • Reply Liz A October 24, 2013 at 9:10 pm

    This is so sweet. My brother must be the same age as Lily because I am also 12 years older than him. I feel the same way, especially with #1. I also remembered being very protective of him. We didn’t really have much of the sibling rivalry like I did with my sister who is 4 years younger. For the most part he has always been very mature and respectful. He has managed very well on his own without needing much advise from me or my sister. We have become much closer as we have aged though. We really bonded during our marathon training last year. It was his second race and my 1st and he helped me a lot. My relationship with my sister is so much sweeter now too. She has given me so much advise about parenting and all things kids related. We have learned from each other and it’s amazing how much closer we are now….to make you feel a little better about the age difference my mom is 1 out of 16 brothers and sisters with same parents. My youngest aunt is 37 and oldest is 63. That is 26 year difference. Yikes!! haha

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:23 pm

      Wow! Liz, I am not intrigued at how your aunts get along!! Your marathon experience is a great point. Sometimes, finding something that can bring you together is they key! I’m so glad it is working out great for all of you. Thank you for your comments! xoxo
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  • Reply Leticia C. October 24, 2013 at 9:20 pm

    Oh man, where is the tissue?! There is so much I could say but most importantly, THANK YOU!!!! Not that any of your other posts are not great reads, but this one is by far the absolute best! πŸ˜€

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:24 pm

      Oh, Leticia, I’m so glad that you were touched by this post! You’re welcome but thank you for always being so supportive! xoxo
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  • Reply sal October 24, 2013 at 9:53 pm

    ugh! so boring!!!! ur boring every1!! just #1 for me please

    • Reply sal October 24, 2013 at 9:56 pm

      btw im the brother here all jokes dont tar and feather me.

      • Reply Maritza De Leon October 25, 2013 at 9:40 am

        too funny Sal!!! Be nice πŸ™‚

  • Reply Norma Nava October 25, 2013 at 12:03 pm

    Muy dulce, me hiciste recordar que yo tambiΓ©n soy hermana mayor y es muy cierto lo que mencionas, Un beso y abrazo para las dos.

  • Reply Cristina October 25, 2013 at 3:12 pm

    Wow, this is great! I know I’m taking notes. I can relate with you Betty. I’ am the middle child of three and my only sister is 6years younger than I am. For us, it took years until we learned how to have a healthy sister relationship. I too, played the step-mom role until she was in her early 20’s. I can now now say, that I am super blessed to have realized how important it is to respect and know that we all have a roll in life, especially in a family. All roles are important, as we all play a huge part in each others lives. Once we know our role and respect it, we can enjoy the relationship even better. Although I have a lot of great childhood and lifetime friends, my sister is my little sister, best friend, confidant, partner in crime, my #1 supporter and best critic, as well as mentor, you get the point lol. I am glad to see that you and Lily have that special relationship and we can only grow and seek within ourselves to understand others better. Growth is a process! Thank you for having this blog! Xo

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:28 pm

      Thank YOU, Cristina. Your support means the world! I am so glad that even though your relationship is solid, this blog post was appreciated. You’re very fortunate to have found a great bond with your sister. We hope to get there too. Sniff. xoxo
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  • Reply Caro October 26, 2013 at 12:50 pm

    Hi Sal! It’s so nice of you to comment on your sister blog, even if it’s just to bug her! πŸ˜‰

    • Betty
      Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:29 pm

      Verdad?? Hmph!
      LOL He is super supportive and fantastic when it comes to my blog. I heart my big brother too. xoxo
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  • Reply Heather October 26, 2013 at 5:26 pm

    This post is beautiful Betty! I have four older sisters and there is a pretty big age gap between me and my oldest. The oldest is approaching 50 in a few years, it’s crazy!! Although there was that gap, I kind of guided myself through life and I learned from them without them having to teach me. But I am a firm believer in age doesn’t matter and you always be close with someone that is older/younger. My sister that is the second oldest (close to 50 as well) is my son’s godmother. We always had an unbreakable bond. Your sister is so pretty! It runs in the family! XOXO

    • Reply Heather October 26, 2013 at 5:27 pm

      *can* always be close oops!

      • Betty
        Reply Betty October 28, 2013 at 8:30 pm

        Heather, that is fantastic! That is a big age difference too and I’m so glad it has been really nice for you. Thank you for always being so supportive! xoxo
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  • Reply Yvette S October 28, 2013 at 5:23 pm

    Beautiful blog and pictures!! Having a sister no matter what the age gap is wonderful!!!! Just like you I have the same age difference. No matter how many years apart she is one of my best friends. Having kids and being very close to her has it’s perks! Sometimes being the oldest sister or even child we tend to bring onto ourselves as portraying a “motherly” role. Keep up the good job!

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